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We wear many hats: parent, spouse, child, friend, manager, employee, side hustler, entrepreneur. We’d love to have enough time to be all these and sneak in enough time to take care of ourselves too.
But let’s get real. More often than not, we can’t figure out how to put everything and everyone in our calendar.
We may be thinking: “If only I can get better at work-life balance, then I can have it all.”
We often fail at achieving that elusive work-life balance and think it’s because of our poor time management skills. While this can be a contributing factor, we may have misconceptions about what work-life balance is, and are therefore aiming for impossible standards.
Read on to discover the 4 myths about “work-life balance” and why it’s not achievable for most of us.
There may be some truth to the last one, especially if you are clocking in 60-hour workweeks. You may be missing too many family dinners or cutting back on much-needed sleep.
But your work also allows you to provide for your family and fund your dreams; therefore, it supports your relationship and financial goals. Also, the time you spend away from work doesn’t necessarily make you less productive. Studies show it can actually help you recharge so you can feel more relaxed and be more focused at work.
But if work-life balance is a myth, what else is there to aim for?
With work-life harmony, we start looking at different parts of our lives as supporting, instead of opposing, each other. Just like how carefully chosen notes, played together, can produce a musical masterpiece, we need to choose which activities to keep, add, or delete (if they don’t blend well with our lives).
Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos uses the framework of work-life harmony to step up his productivity and performance. As he tells Thrive Global: “Balance tends to imply a strict tradeoff. In fact, if I’m happy at work, I’m better at home — a better husband and a better father. And if I’m happy at home, I come into work more energized — a better employee and a better colleague.”
Below are some tips to help you create work-life harmony.
For example, if you are building a business while working a full-time job, know that you will be spending less time going out with friends or watching your favorite games.
There will be seasons in your life when you’d spend more time on your career, or choose to spend more time with your kids. But while we cannot give equal amounts of time to each critical aspect of our lives, we can still find time for these items and put them in our schedules.
In my article on setting GROWTH goals, I talk about the importance of starting with a grand vision (having a long-term goal) and knowing your “why”, then planning how to achieve goals.
Once you have identified your most important goals, plot these activities in your calendar. Is it your child’s graduation you wouldn’t want to miss? Your anniversary? Date nights? By putting them in your calendar first, you can be sure that your most important goals will not be at the mercy of urgent yet less important activities.
Former first lady Michelle Obama used this strategy to manage their family’s busy schedule long before her husband became president. At the start of every year, they looked at their personal commitments and scheduled these first. She shared: “We put potlucks in there, we put date nights in there, I put my workouts, we put our vacations on the calendar first, we put sports things and summers. We planned that out first, and then what was left would be left for work.”
Once you have identified your most important goals, apply the Pareto Principle to trim down your to-do list. Ask yourself: “Which 20 percent of my tasks will most likely have the biggest impact on my business?”
Instead of making it a goal to check off many (meaningless) tasks, focus on key decisions and outputs. As Jeff Bezos says, “making a small number of key decisions well is more important than making a large number of decisions.”
Work-life harmony is not just about smoothly weaving into our schedule all that’s important to us. It’s about living fully by being present to the people and activities we value. So if you have dedicated Saturdays to bond with your loved ones after a week-long trip, gift them with your full attention. Resist the temptation to read your work emails. Make sure that the people you love know you love them, and that they do not feel like they are at the bottom of your priority list.
As we deal with the pressure of growing our business, nurturing our relationships, and maybe even working a full-time job, we will find it impossible to give equal time and attention to every important aspect of our lives. Pursuing work-life harmony helps us put the most important things first and hack away at those which are less important.
This doesn’t mean we will always be in control of our schedule though. Once in a while, we might break a promise we made to ourselves. We might have to work more hours during our companies’ busy season for example.
We will never be able to balance things perfectly and that’s okay. Gary Vaynerchuk, in an article on time management, shares that while he holds himself accountable, he does not judge himself when he messes up.
Why not do the same? Next time you feel like a failure for prioritizing the wrong things (for the nth time), stop criticizing yourself. Look at what you can do better. Then do exactly that.
Now it’s your turn. What’s your take on work-life balance or work-life harmony? What habits/strategies work for you? I look forward to reading your comments!
As an online time management coach, I help solopreneurs to organize their lives, become more productive, less stressed and accomplish more in less time. I not only share tips for tools and tactics, but also provide insights and strategies to accomplish more. Read more...
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